Proper etiquette says no Registry Card. By definition a “gift” is something given voluntarily. It’s the thought that counts…therefore, gifts are thoughtful. Meaning your guests really ponder their purchase. A Registry Card may make some feel compelled to buy something and only the things that you’ve selected. Additionally, I’ve learned that many people don’t like to be told what to buy someone (go figure). Since weddings are the coming together of families there are many generations represented on your guest list. So you must keep in mind that there will be some guests who expect a more traditional/formal flare from start to finish, and others who will expect a modern event. With that said you want to make sure you don’t alienate anyone.
So how to your guests find out where you’re registered if there is no card? Proper etiquette says the way to announce where you are registered is through word of mouth. Family and friends tell others as they RSVP for other pre-wedding affairs. Word does travel fast, so rest assured that all of your guests will know where you are registered.
Now that you know what proper etiquette, how should you decide whether to include or not to include a Registry Card in your invitations ensemble? Well, when deciding keep these few points in mind…
- If your wedding is traditional and formal throughout don’t stray from that format with the invitation…Don’t include the Registry Card.
- Know your guests. Will they expect a Registry Card?
- Do you feel a responsibility to pass the torch and educate others about the traditions and etiquette of this special occasion?
Stay tuned for more etiquette tips and tidbits as you create your lasting first impressions!
